Play Interventions for Children
Play-based therapeutic intervention for children from around undefined years of age - a child-centred, trauma-informed way of working with what…
Read moreA way of working that separates the person from the problem - so a child stops being "the angry one" and starts being someone with a problem they can push back against.
By the time a family comes to us, a story has usually settled in. He is the angry one. She is the anxious one. This family cannot cope. The story is rarely accurate, and it is almost always doing damage, because people tend to grow into the account that is given of them.
Narrative therapy works directly on that. It is one of the core approaches we use in child and family counselling, and it adapts unusually well to children.
The person is not the problem. The problem is the problem.
That sounds like a slogan until you watch what it does in a room. When a nine-year-old stops being “an aggressive child” and starts being a boy who has been pushed around by Anger, everything shifts. He is no longer defending himself against an accusation. He can join his parents on the same side of the table, and they can all look at the problem together.
The problem gets named and placed outside the person — the Worry, the Temper, the Sneaky Fear. Children take to this immediately; many will name it themselves.
Where does it show up, when is it strongest, what does it cost, who does it recruit onto its side? This is done with curiosity, not blame.
The times the problem should have won and did not. These almost always exist, and they are almost always overlooked because they do not fit the story.
Those exceptions get built out into a fuller account — of a child who is resourceful, a parent who kept showing up, a family that held on through something hard.
New stories need an audience. Parents, siblings, teachers and grandparents are brought in to notice and reinforce what has changed.
Why this matters after trauma. Trauma and family violence leave people with a story in which they were only ever helpless, and children with a story in which they were somehow to blame. Narrative work does not deny what happened; it recovers everything the dominant story left out — including what the person did to survive it.
Narrative therapy treats the client as the expert on their own life and their own culture, and the therapist as someone asking useful questions. It does not require a family to adopt a Western explanation of distress in order to be helped, and it makes room for cultural, family and faith knowledge as legitimate resources rather than obstacles. For families from African and other CALD communities, that difference is often the reason therapy becomes possible at all.
If you or a child is in immediate danger, call 000. For 24/7 support contact Lifeline on 13 11 14, Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732, or Safe Steps on 1800 015 188. Our counselling service is not a crisis or after-hours service.
Yes — it is one of the approaches children take to most readily, especially combined with play and sand play. Naming and drawing the problem makes it concrete and beatable.
No. Externalising a problem is not excusing behaviour. In practice it usually increases a person’s ability to take responsibility, because they are no longer defending their whole identity.
No. We match the approach to the person, and narrative work is generally combined with play-based, sand-based and trauma-informed methods.
Yes, and it works considerably better when they are. Parents are usually the most important witnesses to a child’s new story.
Most people we work with combine two or three of these. Mix and match whatever fits your plan.
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